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There’s a question I’ve been chewing on lately.

It started small—like most truth-nudges do.

But it stuck.

Is integrity still fashionable?

Because sometimes it feels like we’re living in the golden age of optics.

Where everyone’s got a brand. A mission. A filtered version of themselves they carry around like a résumé.

We’ve mastered the art of looking right.

But living right? That’s a whole different game.

And by right, I don’t mean perfect.

I mean aligned.

Rooted.

The kind of right that lets you sleep at night because your words and your actions had dinner together and didn’t end up in a fight.

Here’s what I know:

Integrity isn’t loud.

It won’t get you likes.

It doesn’t strut down catwalks or drop into TikToks wearing sequins.

But it’s the only thing that can hold a life together when everything else falls apart.

Walking the Walk

For me, integrity is not a costume I put on when I’m being watched.

It’s the quiet decision to not betray myself.

Not in meetings. Not in motherhood. Not in marriage. Not on Mondays.

It’s choosing the hard “no” when everyone’s clapping for the easy “yes.”

It’s saying, “This isn’t me,” even when it costs you the room.

It’s choosing a soul that’s intact over an image that’s adored.

And honestly? That choice is metal.

That choice is fierce.

That choice—despite what the world may try to sell you—is incredibly attractive.

Because people are starved for truth.

Starved for real.

Starved for someone to stand up and live like they mean what they say.

What If Integrity Is the Trend?

What if integrity is the new rebellion?

The bold, breathtaking act of refusing to perform?

What if it’s not old-fashioned—it’s timeless?

You can keep your curated perfection.

I’ll take the messy, consistent, cracked-but-honest version of a person any day.

Because here’s what I think: When you’ve got integrity, you don’t need to chase your worth.

You become the kind of woman who knows it was never up for debate in the first place.

And that, my friend? That’s fashion.

That’s leadership. That’s freedom.

A gentle dare, from me to you:

Where are you performing?

Where are you saying “yes” when your gut is screaming “no”?

What would it look like to call your integrity back home?

Not as a trend.

But as a truth that was never meant to leave you in the first place.